God's Version of Success
He found it both perverse and interesting that
the children of parents with impossible expectations were often
indistinguishable from those whose parents had no expectations at all. (The
Covering)
We’ve all told our children, “You can be
anything you want to be.” I know I have. Sounds positive. Right? We’ve
certainly meant it that way. But broadening opportunities for some, simply
based on their financial status (whether it be high or low) or ethnicity, and
trophies for all participants whether they come in first or last, have
introduced a definite problem among today’s youth. “Expectation of success.”
The emphasis on education is so strong that
kids—and that’s what they are—dive into debt with college loans, when the odds
of them finding employment in their chosen field, are narrowing by the day. If
they’re following their passions I say, go for it, more power to them. But more
often than not, they are following a path laid out for them by parents or
society.
The drive to succeed becomes habit, and the
expectation of success, a devastating blow for those who miss the mark. They
can often end up as unproductive—at least in their own eyes—as those who were
never encouraged and pushed.
Having a job that pays the bills and allows a
little left over is now depressing because it’s not THE job, that gives them 4
weeks paid vacation and a summer home. And because of unrealistic expectations,
many would rather not try at all, or choose other avenues to attain their
version of success, from gambling to get rich quick schemes.
Let me say here, I am not endorsing living a
life of mediocrity. As Christians, we should all strive for excellence.
However, when the striving becomes our primary function, and
perfection our single goal, there’s a problem. It’s far too easy to lock our
focus on the unattainable and miss everything in between.
I hear this frustration every day when people
say, “Why pray for that? It’s not going to change anything,” or “I’m one
person. My $10 isn’t going to matter.” It’s that all or nothing
mentality issued by the world (the devil), designed to make people
give up if they don’t see dramatic results right away. But this isn’t how the
Kingdom of God works.
Just as Jesus came to earth as a baby, starting
small and working His way up, as it were, so do our ministries, our outreaches,
even our prayers. Some of us know this frustration, and when we find ourselves
there, it helps to be reminded that God’s version of success looks nothing like
what we’ve been taught. Not only is success God’s idea to begin with, but He
knows what we need to attain it, and what it should look like.
Philippians 1:6: … who began the good work
within you, will continue his work until it is finally
finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns. (NLT)
I believe that ultimately,
success is fulfilled destiny, which varies greatly from person to person.
Entering into heaven, God is not going to say, “well done, top-selling regional
sales manager,” but rather, He’s going to identify us by what we’ve done for
Him, even if we never see first-hand, the impact we’ve had on someone’s life.
He sees the mark we are to hit, that is the
success we
should strive for. So rest, knowing that He is continuing the
work in us. And with that in mind, I wish you all Much Success,
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About the Author:
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to write Christian Romance. These books don’t contain explicit sex scenes, but
my characters have real desires, struggles and choices to make. A lot of the
time they make the wrong ones. No subject is prohibited, but good always
triumphs and God is glorified.
In my personal life,
He has also blessed me with a wonderful husband and three dynamic children, all
of whom are destined to make wide, colorful splashes in this world. We share
our New Jersey home with three dogs. I have no hobbies to speak of, unless you
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Welcome, Dana! I really enjoyed your post. We could all do with a bit re-thinking about what success really is.
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DeleteGreat post, Dana. I'm not even sure what success means anymore. I am finding peace instead. Best wishes back to you! ❤
ReplyDeleteThanks, Tanya! <3
DeleteRight on about ending participation trophies and unrealistic, universal expectations for all children. Viva the differences internally wired by God in each person.
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